What determines your happiness? What exactly is it that makes you happy?
Helping others? Helping yourself? Money? Your career? Your spouse? Alcohol? Sex? A really good cry?
I’m going to share a secret with you...None of these, or any other external influences, equate to happiness. Not lasting happiness anyway.
You see, we’ve been programmed to believe that happiness is a subconscious reaction to some external influence.
Doing good for others makes me happy. Getting that promotion will make me happy. Retiring will make me happy.
Sure, on a micro level this is true of all emotions. Watching a funny movie can make you feel happy. Losing a pet makes you sad, etc.
Happiness on a macro level, however, cannot be achieved without conscious influence.
It comes down to choice…Sounds easy right?
Oh, I just decide to be happy and my life is suddenly perfect, huh? Not quite…
It does take effort. And it requires making happiness a habit.
Habits are formed over time; they can be shaped, molded, and altered with conscious effort.
Making happiness a habit requires three things…
Accepting the fact that you have a choice
Identifying your current happiness robbing habits
Replace those robbing habits with happiness building actions
Actions take time to become habits. Consistent effort is key.
Get help if you want to accelerate the process and achieve the best results. Or, keep doing what you’ve been doing and continue the struggle.
It’s up to you…